mama for 30 years passes on a little wisdom

Spilled Milk Part 1

Spilled Milk Part 1

“God is in control of all things.”

I have said this to my kids.  Do they believe it?  I hope so.

But by the way I have reacted to some of the unexpected and unwelcome happenstances of life, my guess is that they may struggle with believing it; I mean really believing it.

To really believe that God is in control of all things affects the way we react to everything from a death in the family to spilled milk. It is in those moments (or sometimes months depending on the severity of the crisis) when we are reacting that our kids are all ears and eyes soaking up our tone of voice, facial expression, and the words that recklessly spill out from our lips or not.

When we react, it is like picking up a megaphone and shouting to our kids, “Here’s what I really believe about God. Watch!” (I am feeling the pain of my own words right now!)

We are communicating to them some very basic truths about God: Is God in control? Is God good? Does God love me? Does God care? Hopefully, we are all careful in moments like these, but let’s be honest, we can all look back at times when we misbehaved in front of our kids.

IS God in control?  It is critical that we settle this question in our own hearts. A couple of silly questions might help us gain perspective on the stuff life dishes out and the way we handle it (the correlation does break down theologically but you get the idea.)

Mamas and Daddies, do you sit around deviously plotting a day full of tragedies, trials, and temptations for your child?

You are probably offended at such a suggestion!  Of course you don’t!!  Why not?

Do you establish consequences for the rebellion and disobedience of your children?

If you don’t chaos ensues. When you do, your child learns to submit to your loving correction and harmony is restored. Every act of rebellion and it’s consequences are the best teaching moments we have with our children to lovingly shape them into people of good character and maintain a loving relationship.

God is in control of all things and He uses all of life to teach us and shape us into his image and express His love.

The entire human race is fallen and sinful.  The bad things that happen to us and the world around us are the natural consequences of the disobedience and rebellion of the world we live in. God is not up on His throne concocting a miserable day for you or anyone else, but He does allow natural consequences to come and it touches our lives sometimes close to home.

It is difficult for us, small as we are, to understand this big picture, but the context of it all is His great love and His great plan to spend eternity with us in heaven.  His love runs global circles around our love for our kids, yet what do we do when trials come? Just like defiant little children we cast an angry glare at Him and demand to know why.

“How could a loving God allow this to happen? “, we say.

We resist with all our might, assuming God must have taken a vacation, and we treat life like one big haphazard series of events, without purpose and “well, things just happen” and we all just keep getting bumped along the path of life, avoiding as much pain as possible, until one day it all ends and we go to our graves with a fat bank of tragedies, trials, and…spilled milk that God would have used to shape us into His image had we just been teachable…………..but we missed it.

We were too busy kicking and screaming against the gentle pressures of the Potter’s hand or just altogether ignoring them. And why do we react this way?  Because we have not settled the question, “IS God in control?”.

The sun will rise again tomorrow, just like it did today. Maybe we should spend some time today considering how we will face it with a different perspective. A perspective that says “God, I know you are in control and I am willing and ready to receive whatever you choose to allow to touch my life tomorrow, however painful or frustrating it may be.  In all my busyness I will keep watching for You and choose to be teachable through it all.”

Our kids are hungry for the truth to be lived out in front of them.  Let’s keep that megaphone handy because when tomorrow’s crisis comes, we will be shouting things like, “Yes! God is in control!”, “Yes! God is good!”, “Yes! God loves us!”, and “Yes! God cares!”.

Below are some verses you may use to meditate on today.  Blessings to you dear readers!

Romans 9:20-21 – Who are you, O Man, who answers back to God? The thing molded will not say to the molder, “Why did you make me like this,” will it? Or does the potter have a right over the clay, to make from the same lump one vessel for honorable use and another for common use?

Isaiah 45:8-9 Drip down, O heavens, from above, and let the clouds pour down righteousness; let the earth open up and salvation bear fruit, and righteousness spring up with it. I, the Lord, have created it. 9 “Woe to the one who quarrels with his Maker—An earthenware vessel among the vessels of earth! Will the clay say to the potter, ‘What are you doing?’ Or the thing you are making say, ‘He has no hands’?

Jeremiah 18

Proverbs 16:9 – “The mind of man plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps.”

Job 12:10 – “In his hand is the life of every living thing and the breath of all mankind.”

Psalm 22:28 – “For kingship belongs to the Lord and He rules over the nations.”

Psalm 115:3 – “Our God is in the heavens; He does all that he pleases.”

Proverbs 3:5-6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

Isaiah 41:10 – “Fear not for I am with you; be not dismayed for I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Romans 10:9 “I you confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.”

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